Nowhere was this pattern more evident than in the painful season 3 finale. After Frankie discovered that her Traitors bestie Charlotte was actually a traitor, she was heartbroken. When she told the remaining finalists, everyone was shocked. Even though they did end up believing Frankie, they became so paranoid, they ended up voting her out, too, at the last minute. “Trust is built over time, and when someone feels threatened, they tend to become more vigilant, seeking signs of disloyalty to protect themselves,” Zane says.

Although most of us won’t ever find ourselves faced with a bestie who has secretly been “murdering” our other friends each night, many of us will encounter friends or partners throughout our lives who aren’t entirely truthful — and as The Traitors shows us, each time it happens, we’re bound to become more and more wary of our other relationships.

And, just as in The Traitors, we usually look for what we think are tell-tale signs of a “traitor.” After all, we all have a clear idea of what a traitorous person and what a faithful person looks like.

“The Faithful archetype is defined by loyalty, honesty, and a strong moral compass, while the Traitor is manipulative, cunning, and strategic,” explains Zane. In turn, we tend to be more trusting of people who express “Faithful” traits — people who “tend to build trust and connection.” Meanwhile, we are less likely to trust those who embody the Traitor archetype — people who appear to be “seeking to deceive for personal gain or creating tension among their peers.” Of course, the truly traitorous are usually pretty good at hiding their ulterior motives.