I can see the pragmatism and beauty in the theory. “The five love languages are an easily understood tool for improving relationships,” says Jack Worthy, licensed psychotherapist and associate faculty member at Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy. “Chapman made the observation that we misunderstand one another’s expressions of love, as we’re often speaking different love languages,” he says. “So it’s important to know how your partner [or friend, or family member] wants to be loved, and give [them] love in [their] language, not in yours (as tends to be our habit).”