The ‘women in male fields’ TikTok trend is exposing toxic male relationship behaviours

TikTok’s ‘women in male fields’ trend is highlighting the universal experiences of women that date men… and it’s, er, more than a little eye-opening.

ICYMI, the trend has seen multiple women (nine million and counting, actually) collectively sharing the toxic relationship behaviours that they have often been on the receiving end of from men – and satirically flipping them on their heads as if they had behaved in the same way. All to the soundtrack of Nicki Minaj’s Anaconda, no less.

“He sent me a paragraph explaining how he felt and I replied with ‘idk what you want me to say rn’,” reads one. Another: “When I started punching the ground and balling my eyes out because I cheated.”

Another big hitter – with a huge 3.2million views – reads: “He was crying in bed so I said ‘here we go again’ and turned around and fell asleep.” Also resounding (far too heavily) is: “When he tells me exactly what I’ve done wrong, so I say ‘I’m sorry you feel that way’.”

Unsurprisingly, the comments sections are just as relatable – as countless women react to what is clearly a universal experience. “ARE WE ALL DATING THE SAME MEN?” one asks, as another writes: “This trend makes me realise I’ve never had a unique experience.”

So, the ‘women in male fields’ trend is making women feel seen (by other women, at least). As one TikToker put it: “[The] women in male fields trend is teaching women that it’s not our fault. It’s the subtle guide to red flags.”

For others, it’s a way of at least being able to poke fun at such experiences. As GLAMOUR contributor Chloe Laws wrote: “Hopping on this trend because sometimes it’s necessary to laugh at the misogyny I experience online on a daily basis.”

Perhaps unsurprisingly, there has since been a ‘men in female fields’ spin-off trend on TikTok, in which men share experiences from their own relationships with women. Some are tongue-in-cheek, some not so much. Touched a nerve, perhaps? Either way, you can expect your FYP to be filled with far-too-relatable relationship stories for the foreseeable… and Anaconda on repeat.

As someone who has been in a relationship with a man for over 15 years, I highly recommend therapy.